Life Coaching Blog - The Coaching Life Company Marbella London

The power of your words

Wow, I was totally inspired by the water researcher from Japan called Masaru Emoto, who did all the experiments with water. He exposed spoken and written words, music, pictures and videos to water. After it was crystalised. The results of the water were truely majestic. He then photographed them and it was amazing how differently the crystals formed into either beautiful shapes after something positive had been said to it or into ugly shapes, if something negative was said. Look here to see more about how they look, really quite amazing.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkbpXRSIUnE

As humans we are say 70% water, so can you imagine the effect on us if we have negative self talk going on and we are listening to it.......yikes!

I was so moved byt this, that I continued to hunt around on youtube and discovered the 'rice experiment' again by Masaru Emoto. In the experiment you take a cup of cooked rice and put it in a sealed container with the words 'thank you' written on it and then you put another cup of rice in a different sealed container with the words 'you fool' on it. You sit the containers a bit apart and then daily you say "thank you" to the 'thank you container' and "you fool"  to the 'you fool container'. You do this process for 30 days. After 30 days the results were quite incredible. The 'thank you rice container' was pretty unchanged but the 'you fool rice container' has turned yellow and really gone off. Again the effect of our words on particles, energy....us. Take a look at the results of this one experiment after 30 days.

http://www.youtube.com/user/ddemotte

We are all energy and so what is happening to the rice or water will be happening to us. This proves that what we say is having an effect. I am sure we all do some the negative self talk, to some degree but when you see these results you realise that the negative self talk really has to stop. 'And how on earth do I do that?' I hear you scream. Well, good question. First you need to catch yourself doing it. Then notice what you are saying and then when you see some patterns forming. Then ask yourself, 'is this true? 'I am pretty sure, it won't be. Then you want to start creating some positive affirmations that are the opposite of the negative ones. For instance if you are saying to yourself 'I are stupid' you would then change this to 'I am intelligent'. Then repeat the new affirmation, looking in the mirror 10 times, at least once a day. This is one way to work on this negative self talk. Also another good thing to do is to start to notice all the good things you do, focus on these more. So that these are in your thinking and thoughts more. I know that I plan to re-focus my energy on more positive thoughts and language. How about you?

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

I came across Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) when I had some negative beliefs myself, that I could not shift, the emotion that was attached to these beliefs were so strong and were such a drain on my life and were also stopping me from moving forward in my life. I had only one session of EFT my beliefs and the negative emotion was gone too. I found the results amazing and so decided to train in it myself and use it often with my life coaching clients to shift any beliefs or negative emotion that is holding them back.

What is Emotional Freedom Technique?

In essence, EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture wherein we stimulate certain meridian points by tapping on them with our fingertips. Our bodies have a profound electrical nature. This electrical system is vital to our bodies, we cannot it as we can not see the electrical wiring in our homes but we know it is there.It is based on the premise that "the cause of all negative emotion is is a disruption in the body's energy system". It is a combination of verbal statements whilst "tapping" or stimulating energy points in the body. This stimulation removes the negative emotional component from the memory, event and dispels the unwanted disrupted energy. This leads to a smooth, rebalanced flow of energy in the meridian system.
The principles behind EFT were discovered by Dr Roger Callahan, a clinical psychologist of over 40 years. All his life he had been working to find ways to cure people and finally came across some techniques that had amazing repercussions. Dr Callahan, discovered Thought Field Therapy or the Callahan Technique. A student of Dr Callahan called Gary Craig who was a Stanford engineer, simplified the technique and came up with his streamlined version which everyone could use, Emotional Freedom Technique. For more about Gary Craig, have a look at his site here http://www.emofree.com/

If you would like to chat further about how EFT could work for you. Please feel free to send me an email as susan@thecoachinglifecompany.com

Latest dates for Life Coaching Adventures in Andalucía 2009

Next Long Weekend - Friday 24th to Monday 27th July

1 to 1 Long Weekends available any weekend from Friday to Sunday- please contact Susan for availability

Andalucían Adventure- Wednesday 2nd to Wednesday 9th September

Coaching in English

I want to tell you about a new product that we are about to launch on the Spanish market. It is a coaching program specifically aimed at those learning a 2nd language. The idea came about as I was struggling to learn Spanish and I discovered that I had some old beliefs that were seriously impeding my learning. My beliefs were from my school days and the truth is, with beliefs it doesn't matter whether or not they are true. The fact is that if we believe them, then they will affect how we live our lives. And I was still believing them, and this is seriously holding me back from leanring Spanish. I had some beauties, such as 'you were never good at languages' and 'you can't even speak English properly'. I did some coaching around these beliefs, well some EFT(Emotional Freedom Technique) to remove the emotion that was attached to these beliefs and then created some new beliefs that would enhance my learning such as 'I learn languages easily'. As you can imagine, holding this new belief has dramitcally improved my learning progress. Seeing the results and knowing how it changed my learning experiene. I decided that I needed to talk to a language school, who has a coaching philosophy and we have developed a new coaching program to improve the way we learn a language. It includes looking at beliefs as well as many other areas such as motivation and time to learn. We are about to launch this product in May. We will also be running some English and Coaching Intensives for weekends and weeks in July and August. If you would like to know more, please drop me a line.

TED

Came across this amazing website, which gives you access to the world's greatest thinkers and teachers, who share their knowledge. This clip is about the left and right side of the brain and is really an incredible insight into how it works by a scientist having a stroke. Bring on more use of the right side so we be more present in our lives and realize how we are all really one, only separated by our bodies and so can live more peaceful with ourselves.

http://www.ted.com/talks/view/id/229

Andalucían Adventure

Dates: 2009- to be confirmed

Join us on a week long adventure - to explore magnificent scenery - and enjoy the passionate energy that is Spain.

We will show you a side of Spain that is breathtakingly beautiful. You need time to appreciate what you see, and you need fellow explorers to share these experiences with, for, as Spain unfolds her magic inside you, she shows you how to connect with people and with nature.

We can offer you the sun, glorious accommodation, beautiful surroundings, and tremendous experiences that grow with you for the rest of your life. These experiences include -

    *      exploring your own inner rhythm through dance
    *      sessions to bring more magicalness and aliveness into your voice
    *      find out how to develop your intuition and inner knowing
    *      learn the basics of simple massage techniques
    *      enjoy nature walks and other outdoor activities
    *      have great conversations around the swimming pool
    *      taste superb Spanish food prepared by our fabulous cook

Voice & Presence sessions
Have you ever wanted to speak more clearly or find the right words to really express yourself? We know what that can feel like, and we can share with you what it takes to find your voice, express yourself with power and articulation, and have fun when you open up and soar. We can also show you how to vocalise your own inner song.

Individual Massage sessions
You will receive a massage session in Marbella on the beach listening to the crashing waves. Additionally, at the villa both Susan and Santari (trained massage therapists) will demonstrate basic techniques for working on yourself and on others. These include: hands, feet, neck, shoulders, and back work. This demonstration will assist you to develop a quality of touch sensitivity, to work energetically with the human body, and to be able to more fully connect with others.

Come and share this magical experience with us.You will be part of a small group of no more than 10 people, discovering what life in this scenic Andalucian setting has to offer.

The total cost of this 7-day adventure is £1295. Includes all transfers, all meals at the villa, shared accommodation, cooking class, massage session, flamenco dance instruction, voice development session, any coaching sessions, and local transport. (Meals out are not included).

For more information and to book your place please visit our website http://newvisionaries.net/Andalucian/

An inpirational message

from a father to his children about life. I was sent this link from a friend and it was so powerful that I wanted to share it. It really is a beautiful and very moving, take a look here

http://video.stumbleupon.com/?s=ithct48cqw&i=ufcchmyxqsuj9vwsemax

When I heard Randy talking about his football coach really pushing, it made me think about my business coach who is really pushing me at the moment and this made me realise that someone only pushes you if they care enough- or else as Randy says, when people stop pushing it means they have given up on you. So I realised how lucky I am to have a coach to keep pushing me as he really believes in me and what I want for my life.

I also loved what he said about the value of people versus things. It is an important lesson to learn and how cool is he to empty a can of soda on the back seat of his car. Wow- really inspiring! 

The importance of having fun- well this one I totally follow and thanks to Randy, it has given me a kick up the arse to look at how I lead my life and as he says the dreams will come to you. Thanks Randy for the amazing lesson. What a man!

Long Week Life Coaching Adventure

This week long adventure will include all of the magic of the Weekend Adventure but will expand out to have more of a focus on re- energizing ALL parts of you. We will have yoga for your body, mind and emotions. There will be a day out to learn how to cook a delicious healthy Mediterranean Meal in an outside kitchen overlooking the sea followed by a massage by our energetic masseuse on the beach. We aim to connect you to ALL parts of you and give ALL parts of you some time to be re- aligned and you will go home feeling inspired about what you eat, how you move and how you feel about yourself as a person.

Price- £1295 includes all coaching workshops, a 1 to 1 coaching session, 7 nights accommodation, healthy and delicious meals prepared by our own cook, Mediterranean cooking class, massage and transfers to and from Malaga

Visions Workshop

Visions Workshop

This 1 day workshop is aimed at helping you create an inspiring vision for 2008 & beyond. There will be life coaching to open you up to your passions and desires. You will then create your own vision board to take home with you along with tips to manifest it.  Wow what a great way to start the New Year!

Date:        Saturday 12^th January 2008

Time:       10 am to 2 pm

Location:   Marbella

What do you want to do before you die?

Wow I just finished reading this inspirational book, ‘Before I die’ by Jenny Downham, about a 16 year old girl who is dying of Leukaemia. There is nothing quite like death to make you want to live. Here is what is written on the cover, which moved me to buy it immediately……….. 

‘It’s OK if you’re afraid,’ Zoey says.

‘It’s not.’

‘Of course it is. Whatever you feel is fine.’

‘Imagine it, Zoey - being terrified all the time.’

‘I can’

But she can’t. How can she possibly, when she has her whole life left? I hide under my hat again, just for a bit, because I am going to miss breathing. And talking. And windows. I am going to miss cake. And fish. I like fish. I like their little mouths going, open, shut, open.

And where I’m going, you can’t take anything with you.

If you were moved too, you can pick up your copy here- www.rbooks.co.uk  

In the book,..... 

Changing your perspective

I got this story in an email and it got me thinking, how often in life we look at obstacles and challenges as a barrier to what we want in life. When you read this story is shows us that maybe the barriers are actually helping us to get to where we are going. Well have a read and let me know what barrier you have in your way at the moment and if you change your perspective and saw it as a step towards where you wanted to go-would that be more helpful? 

A Donkey in the Well

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They each grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.